WHAT WE ARE

  • A community group that provides a supportive community for those who identify as women/femmes/non-binary/gender non-conforming.
  • We provide a safe and supportive community that is intersectional.
  • What does this mean?
    • We are a space to get away from toxicity and/or toxic masculinity
    • We are a safe space for 2SLGBTQ and BIPOC folk
    • We are a space to get away from language that is harmful based on gender, race, sexuality, religion, or ableism.
    • We are a space to get away from behaviors that are harmful based on gender, race, sexuality, religion, or ableism.
    • We are a space that is free from purposeful misinformation and hate speech
    • We are a space that benefits from free speech and open dialogue free from hate and discrimination.

We will do this by abiding by these principles: (modified from Kate Sassoon – Sassy Facilitation)

  • Equalize the space
    • confidentiality – share experiences & lessons, not gossip and identifying details
    • step-up/step-down – give space before you take space, and challenge yourself to step out of your pattern
    • Challenge the idea or the practice – being voiced, not the person voicing them
    • everyone has equal worth in this discussion, and all knowledges and opinions are equally valid. We believe in equity.
  • Check your assumptions
    • no judgments or disclaimers (including self-judgments)
    • maintain gender neutrality in your language, and inquire about personal gender pronouns
    • treat everyone as an individual and not a representative of any specific group
    • Use I statements – own your perspective, don’t project it
    • believe in our common best intentions
  • The Right to be Human
    • Respect each other’s right to be human (to have a bad day, to be triggered, to fail, etc)
    • Honor our differencesour family of origin, culture, orientation, race, class, gender, ability, etc. make us who we are.
    • Acknowledge emotions appropriately
    • Practice giving and receiving forgiveness
  • Consensual Dialogue
    • active listening – attention focused, clarifying questions, check your language, inquire about (and use) preferred pronouns
    • take a risk and speak up, but maintain everyone’s right to pass
    • silence is okay – pauses in the pace of dialogue invite all the voices in the room, take breaks, use reactions, browse different channels
    • 50% rule – each party is responsible for an equal part of the ‘problem’ and the ‘solution’

These are 100% non negotiable:

  • Check your biases at the door.
  • Check your privilege. White/Cis/Het privilege exists.
  • Rape culture exists.
  • All gender identities and expressions are all valid.